Advice on dating much older men
I wonder: What do we gain and lose from dating someone of a different generation? For one, he wore silk onesie pajamas that he meticulously ironed to have a crease down the center of the pant leg.
He also practiced Buddhist chanting (à la Courtney Love).
The Older Man was also my editor, which added a power imbalance to the mix—a dynamic we all know can be equal parts problematic and irresistible.
People raise their eyebrows at relationships with a significant age gap: If you’re the older guy, you’re creepy and exploitative; if you’re the older woman, you’re both of those things plus delusional about your shelf life.
While you want to go on a last-minute trip to Thailand, he might prefer to put the money into his pension or spend it on his children. The older you are, the more you know what you like and dislike, and the less likely you are to try new things or act in a spontaneous way.