I realized over time that I was signing up for the wrong sites and, therefore, was not putting myself in the best position to succeed. The websites I recommend below (by niche group) have been thoroughly researched and are the ones I recommend as you embark on your online dating journey. is a good site, but with eharmony, you will spend less time weeding through low quality profiles.
As I mention in my online dating e-book, when I started out, I had no clue what I was doing, and my money was going down the drain each month with no results (or girlfriend) to show for it. Return to Table of Contents eharmony.com: While used to be my favorite site, I now prefer eharmony.
The filter option is great because you can find anything you’re looking for, whether it be their type of body (slim, athletic, a few extra pounds, etc.), their ethnicity, their religion, political stance, whether they smoke or drink and so much more.
You can search based on “mutual matches”, those members who you have a lot in common with and are more likely to connect with.
I used this site for two years while I was living in New York and had quite a few dates.
Unlike eharmony though, I spent a lot more time weeding through lower quality profiles.
You can also pause your account for up to three months, access to the “premier team” of E-Harmony experts to help you find a match, use Rely ID and e Harmony secure check (which allows criminal background checks on up to three matches.) Match.com: If online dating was boxing, would be in the heavyweight category.