Where a relationship is shorter, accountability stronger, and the level of temptation, and the likelihood of sin, goes down.
To put it simply, “not acting married before you’re married,” gets exponentially more difficult the longer a pre-marital relationship persists.
If we act like we’re married before we’ve made that commitment, we’re defrauding (and sinning).
I don’t know whether you’ve noticed this, but people involved in a dating relationship tend to get to know each other better over the course of that relationship.
In the meantime, the “we’re already committed” rationalization tends to make couples feel free to act in all sorts of ways they didn’t before, and every argument I’ve made in this series applies ), but that doesn’t mean that anyone who uses that language is automatically correct. Scott now lives in the Louisville, Ky., area with his wife, Rachel, and son, William, where he works as an attorney and serves as an elder of Third Avenue Baptist Church.
As a quick theological aside on guidance, God does not primarily lead His people by mystic feelings in the pits of our stomachs about what He wants us to do.
As to emotional intimacy, we live in the age of email, free long distance and unlimited any-time minutes, and cheap flights.