I responded I can't even go for tutoring but you can go hang out with people all night at the bars then go home and party with them. I couldn't do anything without it bothering him but he did whatever he pleased.
His actions where 100 times worse than anything I did to him.
So I did not pay too much attention to his condition. I wasn't trying to insult his life I was trying to describe the things he did to me. I don't think he ever understood what his all night partying did to me.
So I continued to expect him to have non-BPD behaviors. I was in love with him very deeply and was willing to accept all of him except the drinking. Another huge problem was that he thought I was always mad. I spent many sleepless nights wondering where he would end up. One time I was going for tutoring for a class I was in and John became agitated an jealous.
My wife went through something similar with me, but believe me, borderlines feel aweful guilt when somethings like this happen, maybe thats why he is away for now.