For many widowers and widows, dating after a loss requires support and the empathetic company of people who understand the situation. We prioritize compatibility: matching personalities, locations and, crucially, life experiences.
No matter which approach you prefer, when trying out widower or widow dating it is vital to take the time to work out just what it is you want from a new potential partner.
Your next step is to find a dating platform that can truly cater for your needs and help you meet others on the same wavelength.
As the relationship ended because of a death, we can feel that it would never have otherwise ended.
In that sense, it can hold an ‘eternal’ quality in our hearts and minds, with our dead partner being elevated to the position of a ‘martyr’.
Yet, to really see the rewards of this, it is important to remember two things: you musn't compare (try not to think about how someone new is similar to your previous partner) and you musn't contrast (likewise, try not to focus on how the person you are dating is different to your ex.) The danger with comparing and contrasting is that anyone new will be measured according to an unachievable ideal.