“There is no way around it.” It’s not like it has to hit a bunch of markers—like you have to get married. ”Bushnell did not get to explore everything she wanted to in , and is grateful that the book is being adapted into a TV series—which she anticipates will give her ample opportunity to analyze other kinds of middle-age relationships. ”Bushnell loves piercing through relationship pretenses to grapple with these direct questions. But money becomes a reality, and a concern in a way that it wasn’t when you were younger. And it’s better to accept that it’s life rather than make a value judgment on it and just get through it.”Tinder may have once felt foreign to this dating anthropologist—but Bushnell has now steeled herself for a world in which the romantic landscape gets even stranger.
“That’s another trajectory that life can take—what if your marriage does work out? “No one ever really talks about it, but some women do it and it is an option for them,” said Bushnell. “To me, the bigger question is, how is this going to affect us as human beings in the next 20 years?
In 20 years, you may not ‘need’ a man as a woman to reproduce.
So for about two months, Bushnell swiped left and right—entertaining the flirtations of sweet-seeming 20-somethings who didn’t know any dating better. ” Bushnell did not explore other dating apps as well; that pursuit alone, she said, could comprise an entire book.
“Being an old coot myself,” Bushnell reasons in the book, “I really didn’t want to hook up with another old coot.”Speaking to on Monday, months after the experiment ended, Bushnell sounded contemplative: “What was interesting about Tinder was [that] everyone was on it, but nobody seemed to like it. But her new work does chronicle other middle-aged adventures—including her consideration of a Mona Lisa vaginal rejuvenation treatment, her friends’ plastic surgeries, trysts with much-younger men, and her own struggle to feel sexy amidst the many unsexy realities of middle-aged life.
And also, they are great at reinventing themselves and taking on new challenges. The trick is finding the strength to get up again.”Bushnell did find a new beau—whom she refers to in the book as “MNB,” short for “my new boyfriend.” This time around, she sought something entirely different than she was searching for in her 20s and 30s.